a desperate need for communication and understanding
Posted: March 1st, 2009 under Personal Observations.
Tags: communication, love, understanding
Dear Lover,
I have never been so bothered by a game show question in my life.
In a Celebrity Family Feud episode, one of the questions was “Name something a woman might do if she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her.”
The survey revealed:
1. dump him (37 people said this)
2. hurt/kill him (30)
3. cheat on him (7)
4. hit the floozie (6)
5. damage car/tires (6)
6. destroy clothes (5)
I can sorta see how emotions can get the best of someone and cause a woman to make a decision to dump him on the spot. But maybe it’s because I’m too much of a pacifist, but “hurt/KILL” him?? As the second most common answer?!? And what about “damage car/tires” or “destory clothes”? Will those do ANYTHING? And then.. “cheat on him”?? Would eye for an eye really work for this??
I really wished the top answers were:
6. hug him
5. forgive him
4. reflect on it / learn from it
3. talk to him / vent to him
2. listen to him
1. understand him
Do these strategies not exist in this world of love? Have we really been so sucked into the soap opera drama and reality show versions of romance that we’ve been programmed to throw a fit every time we encounter an obstacle in our relationships? Is anger really the norm? the expected reaction? the preferred reaction?
In the times when we need them most, where have communication and understanding disappeared to?
Love Always,
Nathan
Comments
Comment from allison
Time April 27, 2009 at 8:31 pm
This note is so true. But most of the time we are so lost in feelings, anger seemingly becomes our best way out. Its tragic but also helpful if we can reflect and learn from our mistakes, wouldnt you think so?
Comment from Brian
Time March 20, 2009 at 2:03 pm
You have to consider the fact that he cheated on her. He betrayed her. She lent him his trust and he flushed it down the toilet. Sure, hitting/killing him is an overreaction, but surely she’s not going to excuse his unfaithfulness.
Forgiveness is a possibility, but someone who cannot commit ought to be dumped. Just saying.